Hi all thanks for the advice. Strange turn of events , WW was supposed to be collecting D11 from outside the house today but decided to come in. I went into the kitchen and asked was she staying and she replied she wasn't sure I said let me know as I would go out and she answered a bit nasty with ' do what you want '
I spoke back in the same terms and told her that her pointing out to me on text the day before about her not staying on Fridays would upset D11 was not on as she chose to have OM move in and that stopped D11 going down I then asked about the money she is still getting from the family and would we get that back as she now had two incomes. WW said she was only letting him stay short term as the council would re home him soon
I then asked about divorce and she said she wanted to wait until the full five years but would agree to a legal seperation. She then asked what that would entail. I explained that the house would be held for a few years for the kids to grow up and the monies would be sorted including a small pension of about 75 k that I have. She said she didn't want the pension money as it was mine and if the court awarded it she would give it to the kids
We talked for a while and several things were discussed but the upshot is we will no longer talk She will come to the house when I'm not there to see kids and no more staying over
Vanillia. I do understand what your saying but it's very hard to see someone you were with for 26 years at such a low point in their lives I do know it's self induced and I had to take a stand re my involvement with her but all I wanted to do was hug her. I did tell her she needed to see someone but it was her choice and no one could help her.
I worry that she appears to have no real support and forgetting any R with me , how this turn out for her
