I think sadhub gives a good way of looking at it. Your brain is a muscle, so, make it have a work out and get yourself in shape mentally. Oh, yeah, it's going to be mega difficult, and you will backslide, but you're not going to win this battle without doing something for yourself.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015