Thanks, KML. I definitely ignored lots of red flags. Perhaps it's easier to tell myself it's not so bad... dealing with the known is easier than moving towards the unknown.
I've really starated exercising more. I have to convince myself to do it, but it gives me a great high for a few hours afterwards!
Lasthe night when I got home from work she was there with the kids and a friend. She was mean and nasty towards me (I'm inclined to use a much more harsh word, but I'll be nice). It really made me angry. Two weeks ago we were hugging. Now she's treating me like the enemy when I haven't done anything. I let her stew in her hatred and left the house to go out with my sister.
I also noticed she got her hair done, changed her makeup, and got new clothes that reveal a lot more.... she looked amazing. My heart dropped when I saw her. But of course I kept it to myself and left.
I'm focusing on making today a better day. It's a day for the kids and I to hang out.
I haven't made any more steps to file for divorce... still paralyzed with fear.
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done