Ghostbusting This

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Hi G,

Reading your post makes me think that you really need to check out some information and get some assistance with detachment and codependency. You know the clingy thing is never going to help your situation. Read your post. Would you be attracted to you? You also seem very focused on the loss of things that are gone right now and that is not helping you. Maybe look into a divorce care group. This can help you understand the feelings you are wrestling with. You sound as if you need some true understanding of what you are wrestling with in your mind.

I know how hard it is, and I would venture to say that each of us that post on your thread understand the feeling you are going through, but only you can take the steps needed to move forward.

Look at it this way, if one is fat and over weight, and in bad shape, high cholesterol, type 2 diabetes, etc. They wake up one morning and realize changes have to be made. Sacrifices have to be made, because only through this will good health be achieved.

There will be lamenting the ice cream and chocolate cake, because it no longer can be eaten. Exercise is extremely painful, because the body is so out of shape. And the only way to stick to the new healthy plan is to have a strong positive mental attitude. Many fail to make changes because the focus is lost on the comfort of bad habits, and the success of the things we want seem unattainable because so much hard work is needed.

In short, if you do not change what you are focused on, you will struggle to find the mental strength to do what you know is right. You can not see what the reward is on the other side, but so many on these boards have shared the benefits. Trust that. Do the work, and be aware of what you are focused on.

I feel your pain, I pray you can find the strength needed, and I send you positive vibes that you can see hope in front of you and move towards it.

Have a good day my friend, and do something fun, something that is fun for you.