I'm so sorry your H has decided to move out. I know how painful that is.
Job is right. They seem to be masters at dropping bombs around special days. I know that's been the case in my sitch. My birthday, Thanksgiving, Christmas. Ugh.
My suggestion would be to let him go without a word and without lifting a finger to help and then go very dim. He knows this isn't what you want and there isn't anything you can say right now that will change his mind. I think sometimes we have to let them figure out that what they thought was greener pastures was all a misguided fantasy. But you can't tell them that.
I'll second Sotto and Job. Tell the kids in a way they can handle that H has decided to move out. And don't do a family Mother's Day with him. He's chosen to walk out on the family and he's not entitled to be part of days like Mother's Day.
I'm so sorry you're going through this. Stay strong.
Me: 59 and holding H: :53 Me: 1 S, 1 D, both grown M: 19 T: 23 BD: 9-23-2013
