RD My view is slightly different on this, it has always been my view that you need more space and WW being constantly staying in your family home is major cake eating.
Your children are older and can arrange their own meetings with their mum. Get out of the way of that.
Sit on your letter for 5 days or so, if you still want to send it then do so.
I think RD you are in a place where you can let go, I care about RD and the children. I care that even if WW makes the long journey home that RD stays in a difficult marriage. Frankly the fact that WW is depressed, living with an OM, lost in an EA fog is her bag. It is her circus and her monkeys.
RD deserves a life of his own with a loving healthy partner. I think the time has come and if not now, when?
So, if you feel the same next week, then send the letter. I like Sotto modifications, except I think it's fair to say you are done.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW