Hi Sotto. The part about things getting worse is specific to recent events as WW now having OM in hers is that D11 now can't go down ( the other 3 wouldn't go down anyway as they knew OM was staying there ) WW stays every Friday and last Friday she didn't because she was going out. She told D11 a few days before but didn't tell D15 until a few hours before. D15 had planned a big night with her mum and reacted very badly. D15 told WW she has to choose between her friends and her and if she chose her friends D15 did not want her to stay anymore
WW obviously went and this week D15 has been fine with her until Thursday night and she told WW that she did not want her to stay. D15 was very polite but put a sting in the tail by adding she wanted to give WW some notice !!!!
WW texted me about 5'times saying this was unfair especially on D11 ( D11 who now can't stay with her !!!! ). I validated but somehow ended up getting the blame
So that's why the comment of not meaning to upset the kids
I posted on here for my friends comments and thank you for them As I posted to Huddy , I do realise I'm not in a place to decide what to do and I actually wrote the first draft a year ago and it's surprisingly similar that nothing's really changed
My IC told me that OM moving in is a good thing as it will bring their R to a head. IC is of the belief that their R is a codependent one and not an EA or PA When with IC she makes a very compelling argument but my thoughts take over once I'm alone
