Ghostbusting This

[ATPeace]

Hi just after a little advice and I will try and take it

I have been in my sitch for now nearly a year and I have tried doing more things without my W however I still find myself very attached to her and what she is doing.

I really miss the connection that we used to have I do not want to be just her friend I want to be her husband I want the intamacy back again between us however with what has gone on over the past year I really cannot see this ever happening.

I do not want to live apart from her and the thought of this breaks my heart

Although we do quit a lot together she is not prepared to work on a relationship between us.

she is still choosing to live in the same house with me and spend time with me

She is being more secretive with her phone and her iPad but I am fairly sure that there is no EA or PA she tells me that because of how I have treated her she does not feel she could ever trust another man and get into another relationship

So divorce busting is about letting her go and working on me ....when we are getting along well things feel good between us I feel very safe when I am arround her it almost feels like things could be better but she,does,not want this.

So I want to stand for the marrage I do not want to meet any other women I do not,want to be with someone else and start forming another relationship

My wife wlways told me that the most important thing to me in our marrage was if I got it in the bedroom this was not the case sure I enjoyed it but it was not the biggest thing right now I am not bothered And if I dont have sex or make love it is not a big deal i do however miss the cuddles and the holding and being there for my W she would argue that I was not there for her

I feel at a loss as to what to do and how to try and make things better

Am I right in thinking that there is nothing i can do and no amount of forming a conversation or trying t keep a cinjection is going ti matter and it has to come from her ?

Still spinning

Thanks

Ghost