Just a warning. I have not been sleeping lately, so am a bit slow...
But to be honest, I am surprised that my last post prompted you in that way.
I have not really done any research on relationships. But I had always hoped for (and still do) a relationship like my parents (kind of). If one of them were to die, I really do not know how the other one would survive it. It will be absolutely depressing to witness. Or like my maternal grandparents. They always bickered in Italian, but we found it funny as kids. When my grandmother became sick, they had to literally force my grandfather to sign a statement saying that he would no longer support her, so that she could receive necessary health benefits. He didnt understand and was absolutely devastated. In my field, i work with people that have undergone some really life changing and devastating injuries, diseases, and dysfunctions. It is always endearing to witness their spouses support them though this. I would have stood by my husband's side through any of this.
I feel really dissapointed that my husband did not understand this, or perhaps did not value this.
He has written me off to all of his friends and family as verbally abusive and I will be that topic of complaint when it comes to how unfair the child support laws are.
BTW... When I said " when the sex gets boring" I was referring to a man leaving to find another woman, not woman refusing sex because the excitement is gone. Now That was an admittedly cynical and perhaps unfair male bashing comment. I was upset because that actually happened to one of the woman in my divorce care group and has made me fearful to trust in the future.
Will post more on your other points later! I think that can be a fun topic!
