I'm starting to get this process now. Yesterday when my WW was crying about her dead mother, that she has no-one to support her, I just stared at her. I told myself that those are her tears, it's her pain. She needs to feel it. Her mother's been dead for 5 years and I always console her, without fail. I did not yesterday.

Also seeing the fact that she did not want me just on Monday but can't stop pursuing me today. Menzies are done tomorrow so wish me luck on Sunday. I spoke to my mother who really doesn't understand the counterintuitiveness of this all, but she summed it up quite nicely... The process gets the WS to want to want you again.

The best you, the real you that you gave up on, the you that will be the perfect life long partner. The affair is only an attention seeking exercise. If you seek attention, she will show you her worst. Walk away and she will follow your lighthouse. DAMN!

Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.