One thing that I know is we also react to each other's errors and it becomes a cycle.
You are spot on. When analyzing this whole mess I realized that she wasn't getting what she needed/wanted and would hold out on giving me want I wanted/needed, we would both get angry and it would go round and round and round with no ones needs being met.
We both have communication issues. We both assume the other knows what we need/want, when the other doesn't magically figure it out we get angry. I realized this a few months back and brought it to her attention. I told her I want to practice being open and honest. If you need/want something from me say it, don't assume I'm going to read your mind. I told her I don't have a problem supporting you w/what you need/want but I have to know if first. She really didn't say much about it. I've been practicing this for about 2 months and feel very good about my communication improving. However W has made no effort to work towards this.
