In my opinion, this reads like you wanting her to give you a gold star for making some changes to yourself. Like "Hey, W, look how great I am now. What do you think?" I think she deflected that in a way that doesnt hurt you, but I dont think it drew her any closer to you. [/color]
I don't think drawing her closer to me was really my goal. My goal was simply this. I'd been thinking about telling her that for a while now after I came to the realization. Last night just felt right. My perception was that her response was positive.
It is a genuine change in me. In the past I would have blown the whole thing up into a gigantic fight, which is surely what she expected. Instead I challenged her core beliefs about me. I'm going to celebrate that.
At the same time I am going to do what you said about making sure I am taking my time on things and being comfortable with them before I move forward.
Me: 38 y/o W: 38 y/o Together: 10 yrs Married: 7 yrs S1, D3, S15(hers previous, I adopted May'15) WBD: Sep '15 W's EA confirmed Oct'15 W Filed Dec '15 Personal awakening Mar'16
