'i want to tell you something. thank you. these past 5 or 6 months have been very hard. however, had they not happened, i would not have confronted my demons and I wouldn't be the man and father I am now. it took a lot of courage for you to not accept a lesser version of the man you married. I'll be forever grateful to you for it.'
I kinda get where you are coming from...that you would not have improved yourself if not for her actions...but it almost sounds like you thanked her for her being unfaithful to you.
did I read that wrong?
It could be taken that way.
I'll be honest, I was in a huge negativity fog of my own, and it was part of what drove her to where she is now. The shock of losing her might have been the only thing that was capable of snapping me out of it. Does it excuse what she has done since? No, absolutely not. But, I am in as good of a place, other than missing her, as I have been in years, and her filing is what finally pushed me to take that step.
Me: 38 y/o W: 38 y/o Together: 10 yrs Married: 7 yrs S1, D3, S15(hers previous, I adopted May'15) WBD: Sep '15 W's EA confirmed Oct'15 W Filed Dec '15 Personal awakening Mar'16
