W still at home, how to proceed?

[Ralph88]

This is s crucial time. Be patient, avoid being drawn in and avoid letting your emotions get the best of you and avoid getting angry. You and going to be wrong in her eyes no matter what, you are the enemy no matter what. Accept this and listen, listen, listen. Validate when you can, remember validating is acknowledging her feeling, not whether they are true or not. Be careful apologizing as is can reinforce her felling that you are to blame. Be the lighthouse. Read, read, ask questions here, read again. Do not let her ups or downs cause your ups and downs. I could tell my your post, that is the case, because you said "that was short lived". This is not going to be over quickly!!! Patience.