Rose888:

Thanks for your response - very helpful. I guess I will continue to use all of the strategies as each has it's own value.

My motorcycle is coming tomorrow - I told her what I'm doing and said any objections....

I'm going ahead with the basement reno. Last year it was put off because of the drama in our house. It was promised to the kids - I'm not going to break that promise again. She can participate if she wants.

On the other items I will continue to try find new ways to either get her involved or for her to put on her big girl pants and say - You should take care of it.

My goal is to rebuild my MR - so things that are easy/small I'm just doing. Things that a couple is "supposed" to do I will look to my 180/LRT to get any reaction - good or bad.


M:50
W:53
MR:20
D:21
S:17
S:11
BD-Sept 2015
Suspected PA Sept 2015-Confronted W & OM Dec 2015
Actually EA
In house Sep:Jan/16-May 2016
W moved out:May 22 2016
OM-Intro Oct/17-On scene July/Aug 2017