So I felt that I needed to be a little more open with her, I sent her this text last night:

'i want to tell you something. thank you. these past 5 or 6 months have been very hard. however, had they not happened, i would not have confronted my demons and I wouldn't be the man and father I am now. it took a lot of courage for you to not accept a lesser version of the man you married. I'll be forever grateful to you for it.'

She responded with this:

'Thank you for saying that. Everything happens for a reason whether we understand why at the time or not. There is a purpose in Everything. '

Seems like being genuine and from the heart is what she appreciates most, but in the correct dosages.


Me: 38 y/o
W: 38 y/o
Together: 10 yrs
Married: 7 yrs
S1, D3, S15(hers previous, I adopted May'15)
WBD: Sep '15
W's EA confirmed Oct'15
W Filed Dec '15
Personal awakening Mar'16