Sandi, Thanks for the reply. Not initiate contact. Plain and simple, I like that. Think the dimmer switch analogy can be a little troublesome myself. Feel like I'm always trying to mind read the situation; which definitely is not letting go.
What would that picture look like, if she thought you had given up on the M? What do you see her doing?
This is a good questions, I really need to think about this. Thanks for challenging me.
Me-LBH, 44 Spouse-WAW, 41 Married for 9 years S, 7 S, 5 BD - November 20th 2015