I would like to know if any veteran out there could explain to me how to come out of this going dark process with out looking like I'm pursuing.
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I'm not sure what you are really asking. You want to stop being dark, and not appear to pursue? Well, I don't view going dark like some others see it. I don't believe in switching around like a darn dimmer light.........going brighter, then dim, etc. Going dark is like falling off the planet, which is almost impossible when you are co-parenting. So, for right now, can we not use the term of of "dark"?
Can you follow a rule of thumb to not initiate contact?
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I guess because I'm afraid she's going to think I've given up on our MR
What would that picture look like, if she thought you had given up on the M? What do you see her doing?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
