Getting out of in house S (9)

[vise82]

Hey

So yesterday was going in to see L about signing the S agreement, W has a deadline and needed it signed by today to get financing for her house she bought.

Lawyer doesn't like how a calculation for spousal support was mixed in with child support and wants clarification from W lawyer and for the wording to be changed to reflect the payment. This is a last minute change and I am not sure why the L did not see this in the beginning. W says L did this on purpose to get us into court.

All Lawyer legal stuff that I know nothing about, I let lawyer know about the deadline and it does not matter she is acting in my best interest and this needs to change or it could always be there with the child support.

It was nice to have someone in my corner.

I get home and was fearful of telling W. Fearful of the earful I was going to get. I tell her that I tried and wanted so sign but the lawyer was not signing it. I got spew then tears, then guilt tripped. Then threatened with lawsuit, but then she said she would not sue me when I asked.

The problem is W took the chance of buying a place before the S agreement was in place and now that risk is showing to cost her. She is placing blame on everyone else but herself, her world that she was creating with buying all new appliances and bed to live with out me is falling down infront of her face. This is big girl stuff and she was crumbling infront of me. I tried to reach out to the lawyer to get it signed but the lawyer is even more now determined to not sign as this is pressure on me to sign from W.

I am torn as I want to do what is best for me and my kids. doing that is hurting my W. She was taking everything so lightly and was so casual about the S agreement thinking its not a big deal but lawyers have a professional responsibility to protect the clients and to produce a document that would stand up in court even if it may never get there.

W is not getting her way and is trying to control the situation and it is out of her control and she is crumbling.

THis morning she says she is sick is asking for help with the kids almost asked me to stay home to look after her and our sick S4.

I have stood back and watched her create this mess. Watched her spend money on the house she has not bought yet, now its painful to watch it implode. I hope it all works out but it looks like she has tried to get me to help, that did not work as she has no control over my lawyer now she is going to have to ask her parents to get her out of this. She has no more money (credit) left right now to solve the problem as she spent it all.

She is in a big hole, the fantasy is slipping away.