Headed for D - Trying to move on

[Painter]

Just consider the ridiculousness of it - how did you give S2 an infection? Is she suggesting that you did it on purpose? Or that you somehow neglected to sanitize his environment and keep him in a sterile bubble?

I think you handled it perfectly. You expressed concern for your child, went to see him (make sure you document that you were refused access!), and didn't let yourself get dragged into an argument.

If she tries to slam you with the psychologist that you are at fault because a 2 year old happened to get sick on your time - and it was not an injury caused by you letting him play with scissors or matches while watching a ballgame and drinking beer - you have nothing to fear. They see right through that. They do not like parents who try to focus on how neglectful or bad the other parent is. They realize that up until recently, this was a person you felt comfortable with having your children, so why is he/she suddenly unfit?

In your situation, I would focus on your concern about her moving, that the children should have access to their mother, but that her choice to want to move out of the country with them, is too much - uprooting them, taking them away from you and everything they know, etc.

Did you find out if your FIL actually had an MRI the other day?