Juju, I still read your every post and send you my best always.

I just posted on my thread, check it out, I was prompted to action by your last post.

You'll see I share your cynicism. The only other thing that stood out was your comment about 'when the sex gets boring'. Looking into the hierarchy of needs I found it interesting to see that sexual instinct was in the mix along with food and shelter. It is a primal need because it is required for the very survival of the species. And while a man may have already had children, the internal priority doesn't suddenly change. If you choose to let a man into your life again please don't dismiss sexual fulfillment as an exotic luxury, but instead treat it like a requirement of survival for the relationship.

That said, I'd prefer you to sit R's out altogether for a year from when the D is final. It's great to ponder these things, just don't worry too much about it. How you feel today and how you will feel in 2 years when that door may open are two different things. And that's ANOTHER reason I encourage you (and everyone on these forums) to wait.

Take care J, take care.


Me:38 XW:38
T:11 years M:8 years
Kids: S14, D11, D7
BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15