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[BklynMom]

Thank you all all all for your support and kind words. It was nice to see.

I have already made him the offer - 2 daysago - to which he has not responded.

I truly doubt he will take my deal, he really just wants to move and is probably very annoyed that I have said anything at all trying to stop him. He wants to able to forgot about this family and start a new one.

Job, I don't think this is a ploy for more $$, I think it is another way of running from the pain. My ex is deep deep into some crazy pain, so much so that he can't even see the love he has from his daughters right in front of him.

I myself thought of so many of the points that you guys have listed above before making the offer but ultimately I listened to my father. He is a divorce attorney and child advocate for 40+ years. My father is also 20+ years in AA and believes that you can not change the harvest but that you should weed the fields.

My father thinks my ex will not take this offer but he believes I need to be able to tell my girls in 20 years that I did everything I could to try to keep their father present in their lives.

My father has been my main confidant and guide over the past 5 years so I trust his advice even when it goes against the grain. He is a smart smart man.

KML, Any deal would be done with a legal document. Also my ex and I both have life insurance and are the beneficiaries of each others policies. Yearly we submit to each other our taxes and proof that or insurance polices are active.

My ex is the opposite of my father - my ex as you noted HaWho is insane.

My ex has yet to respond. I am sure he is fuming at me.

Either way the girls and I will be good and have a good life.