Staying the second time around

[Ralph88]

Obviously it is your choice to immediately file. I don't know what is going to happen I'm my R, and yes this is at least the second EA/PA. I will tell you (and this is not an excuse for my W), I firmly believe she has some serious issues. Our R will probably never work unless she gets some serious help. Will she? I don't know. Probably not, but I can't control that or her. This is why I hold on to my personal option to consider a chance at reconciliation. I'm not doing anything else in my life romantically, so why not allow that possibility. Either way I'm going to take 6 months to a year to work on my romantic issues and relationship issues, my D won't be done for at least 6 months is I allow it to go quickly, 12 months if I slow roll it. I have nothing but time and healing ahead.