Only you will know what to say to her. You will want to take into consideration several things as you decide. First and foremost, what is best for you, and your children? Avoid worrying about how your decision will influence your W. At this point if the D is what she wants you can not stop it, but you can ensure that you and the children are not left hanging out to dry. D proceedings are not fatal to opportunities for reconciliation, so you must set that aside. You need to focus on you, your kids and what is best for them. Think long term and avoid emotional decisions as those tend to only make short term sense.
Do what you believe is best.
I wish I could give you more, but as I slog through a similar situation I am seeing long term decisions matter more now and logic guides that. My emotions pull to do things to please WAA, but that will not benefit me,her,nor my children.
Get good legal advice, follow your beliefs and principles and avoid emotional decisions, IMHO.
Separate the d process from your desire or lack the roc for reconciliation. That will have to happen separately and only if/when she decides that is what she wants.
I am pulling for you and hope to lend any moral support I can as you work your way through this.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
