New here need support

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Thanks Collin and sandi2 for your input. It is really tough living in the same home and not communicating at all (other than the icy glances). I need to try and stop being so helpful (old habits). She'll eat and leave her dishes around (which has been a sore spot for me in the past). Never understood why she does it other than I guess her mom used to cater to her. I am starting to realizes big differences in the way we approach life too (I am frugal, she spends like crazy (we both make good salaries), I recycle, she disposes and buys new, I like the outdoors, she stays in, etc. I know that differences are good but maybe not so much. Its true that she does not seem to be the W that I married...She hasn't forgiven me for past things said, although I have told her I forgive her for all and I don't bring up the past when we have had conversations. When I starting GALing and not being home and being better dressed she accused me of lying why I was dressed better in the morning (since I work from home) and when I told her I wasn't lying about not going anywhere ( I know I should've approached that better) she said "this is why we'll never work")... huh? There's been signs of borderline/narcissism and that was one of the reasons I didn't want to go to counseling when she first asked in last year. I have since told her I would do anything to save our R including counseling and she doesn't now as she is "done". She has told me that way too many times. This has been a tough week but I know I need to be strong for myself and D7; it's just easier said than done.
Thank you everyone for the support and prayers to everyone who is having rough times. The pain will make us stronger and smarter.
Question re: Mother's day...is it ok to get her flowers from D7 and myself or should they just come from D7?