GAL going well. Need help with LRT and 180

[Rose888]

I'd take a long, hard look at what you really have to decide.

You said major home improvements--do these have to be done this year?

Do your kids have to go to summer camps? Mine are almost the same ages as yours, and we aren't planning camps this year.

Of the things you've tried, it sounds like the firm and direct method works the best. For the decisions you really, truly have to make, I'd use that method and then handle all the logistics yourself. If you aren't asking her to do anything, then the control issue is moot.