My first post - please be nice.

[collin]

One thing (of many) that I am confused about is, I have read on other posts where they say the best course of action is to maintain a level of friendship with your W. Work on the friendship, then move forward.

Others say distance yourself/or detach from W (Go into another room, do things on your own, etc...)

I know I am tripping all over myself during this process. But to me they sound like two different actions. If I left the room everytime she walked in and then turned around and tried to be her friend, she'd think I was crazy and send me to the the loony bin.

So I just need some clarification on the correct way to proceed.

(Also, thanks for putting up with me the past couple days. They were definitely the days where it felt like everything is going wrong and the sky is falling.)