Found out 12 Hours ago. What now?

[AndrewP]

Just keep POSTING and one other bit of advice from Wonka
that I totally agree with.

It is important to clear the search/browsing history from your computer on a daily basis to prevent the possibility for your WAS to stumble on the DB site and discover your posts here on DB. Erasing the search history will protect your posts and you as well.
Keep the DR book and DB site very close to your vest.

Just a bit of "tech" advice. Most browsers have an "incognito" mode that doesn't save anything to your history so you don't have to clear things out. Since W and I have different devices and she can't access mine I don't worry about it. Icognito mode can be a bit of a pain because it doesn't save passwords etc but that can be a good thing. I also went and changed all my passwords for Google, Dropbox and the lock screen on my phone and tablet. I don't "think" that W would try to hack into me but you never know when things might take a nasty turn. I also have an old cell phone set up as a security camera on my home office desk where all the backups are stored. Officially it's watching the rose on my desk.

This sort of thing is double-edged though - it was one of the things I noticed when I started to dig into why W wanted to leave was that her passwords had changed which was very suspicious. Fortunately (?) I got around that and that was how I discovered the OM and ended up here.