Ok. So a guy at work that knows you're married has been hitting on you for years? First off, if this guy doesn't respect marriage, why would you want to go on a date with him if you were single? Secondly, that's the kind of guy that is in the ear of many of our Ss charming them into leaving their families. Not a winner in my book.
Go through the journey you are in now, come out the other side no matter what happens, stronger. I miss the perception of closeness I had, I miss being with my wife, I miss my complete family, I miss affection. When this journey ends, I will find what I need. I'm not rushing it.
Ralph88 Me 40s W 30s, D5 D3 , M7 T9 2013 B drop 1, EA found 2016 B drop 2, EA/PA? 2/16 Physical Seperation 2/16 I filed for D 4/16 PA Confirmed
Yeah you're right. I'd be lying if I said the attention didn't feel good, but I'm not gonna respond at all to him.
I'm having a very hard night. I feel like I've been doing so well lately - completely detached and working on my own life with my daughter. But then I have nights like this when I miss him more than anything and I just want him to come home. My therapist recommended that even if he says he wants to come back, I should wait until he's been seeing his therapist for a few months and is working on himself. The thought of this still going on without any resolution in a few months makes my head hurt. I just want to stop caring!
Me: 37 Husband: 35 Married 5 years, together 13 Daughter - 1 Bomb dropped - 12/28/2015 He's moving out (officially) - 4/15/2016 EA confirmed 6/1/16 PA confirmed 8/1/16
Ok. So a guy at work that knows you're married has been hitting on you for years? First off, if this guy doesn't respect marriage, why would you want to go on a date with him if you were single? Secondly, that's the kind of guy that is in the ear of many of our Ss charming them into leaving their families. Not a winner in my book.
SOOOOOO much of this^^^^. That guy is a piece of $#!&. You deserve a man with character, integrity and values. None of which i can assure you this man has.
I'm having a very hard night. I feel like I've been doing so well lately - completely detached and working on my own life with my daughter. But then I have nights like this when I miss him more than anything and I just want him to come home. My therapist recommended that even if he says he wants to come back, I should wait until he's been seeing his therapist for a few months and is working on himself. The thought of this still going on without any resolution in a few months makes my head hurt. I just want to stop caring!
Some nights are definitely worse than others. Some days I think to myself "ok, I can do this." Others, I freak out, go into panic mode and think the sky is falling. My Tuesday was so promising and so positive, but the past couple days I've just been down and depressed. You just somehow have to not let yourself get too high or too low (which is absolutely easier said than done).
We're here for you though. Wishing you the best.
M:36 W:31 D:12 M: 8/9/10 ILYBNILWY/"want space": 2/14-ish/16 W moved out 5/24/16.
Must of been a full moon this weekend or something. I had been feeling real good the last couple of weeks, and then boom, I've been absolutely miserable the last couple days. Fortunately my wife and I are physically separated, so I haven't had to fake it the last couple days. I think you may be on to something with not letting yourself get to high or to low.
Me-LBH, 44 Spouse-WAW, 41 Married for 9 years S, 7 S, 5 BD - November 20th 2015
I moved his stuff to the basement since he wasn't doing it. He is really dragging his feet to get his stuff into his new place, but that's not fair to me. I can't have everything be on his terms anymore. I need to start living my life for me and the baby. I also am so fearful that he's gonna want to come home because he's uncomfortable in his new place and just misses the comfort of his old life, and not because he wants to be with ne
Me: 37 Husband: 35 Married 5 years, together 13 Daughter - 1 Bomb dropped - 12/28/2015 He's moving out (officially) - 4/15/2016 EA confirmed 6/1/16 PA confirmed 8/1/16
When is this going to get easier?? I know 4 months isn't a long time in the grand scheme of things, but when do I just throw in the towel and call it quits? When does this sadness end? How long am I supposed to be in limbo, not knowing if this separation is leading to reconciliation or divorce?!?
Me: 37 Husband: 35 Married 5 years, together 13 Daughter - 1 Bomb dropped - 12/28/2015 He's moving out (officially) - 4/15/2016 EA confirmed 6/1/16 PA confirmed 8/1/16
your day today sounds like my day yesterday. those kind of days are the worst. but just remember, you have a whole group here that are steadfast behind you and wishing you nothing but the best.
M:36 W:31 D:12 M: 8/9/10 ILYBNILWY/"want space": 2/14-ish/16 W moved out 5/24/16.
Nice job on moving his stuff to the basement. You should continue to focus on you and the baby. Continue to move forward with your life, detaching is key. Your H needs to come back to you.
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
