GAL going well. Need help with LRT and 180

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SadHub:

Thanks for your post and your sound advice. I guess the way I write must sound very desperate - you are not the first person to accuse me of looking for a silver bullet.

As you know - I really feel my GAL is going well - hence the increased confidence. I need to remind myself it's because of God's help.

I'm thrilled with the number of projects I've got done around the house.

I'm ecstatic by the support I've got from friends and family. Today I made a list of 17 guys who have helped me directly in the last 6 months. All have broken bread, drained beers, prayed, opened their home, shared their experiences, etc etc. This is the core group. Never mind the many many "casual" supporters

I've kept the kids extremely busy and I'm loving it.

I've become the master of my home - cooking, cleaning, etc - She even complained that I'm squeezing her out.

My body is so fit, it even looks like I have some muscles and a flat stomach. Never mind I could outrun most people when the zombies invade.

But SadHub my friend, the tips on how to deal with my WW/WAW have been thought provoking and been game changers. Further, I really do enjoy watching her struggle as almost daily there is some kind of change.

A couple of weeks ago Sandi2 posted on Melo's thread about looking her directly in the eye when I speak to her. That was awesome. I'm sure my increased confidence has made a difference in my voice and posture too.

So here it is, Those are kinds of the tips I'm looking for. Simple things that I would not think of that would be the icing on top of all the other changes. So what do you have for me. What are some LRT/180 tips that I should try? I've been trying to do the opposite of what is expected - but that's not always possible.

I can truly say the slices of cake she is eating are getting smaller.

To be totally honest, I've even thrown out some of the pages in DB/DR. I've found acting as if she will still be here has really helped. She has become engaged in the house, the kids, etc. Remember in Jan, Feb and Mar she hid in the basement. Today, she is a much bigger part of the house.

Even if she still leaves, she knows that the kids and I are living full wonderful lives without her.

BTW - my motorcycle hopefully will be here on the weekend. It's a teeny tiny bike - but I can't wait.

So lay it on me. What are some ideas that I can change the way I relate to her.