Only you can know exactly what is best for your situation. The rest of us are just having a quick peek into your life. I know 1 month feels like an eternity but it is nothing more than a blip on the radar in the span of the rest of your life. Going dark is a technique for a reason. It allows the other person to begin to "miss" you and it also gives you the opportunity to spend this time working on YOU. You are very much focused on him right now. I know you feel like you are detached but you are not. Until you are, you can't truly begin to work on your own issues. You need to know for yourself that you CAN go on in life without him. We know you don't want to. None of us want to lose our S. But you need to know that you can do that if you have to. Once you know in your heart that you are capable of that, you will transform yourself into a strong, confident, self sufficient woman. Right now, you are weak and CoDependent. Which do you think is more attractive? Which do you think he is most likely to want to return to? Sorry for the tough love but people don't come here so that they can be told to live in a fantasy world. They come here to save their R's. That's what we are trying to help you do. Focus on YOU LandC. That's how you save your M.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing
