Ah your thought for today is interesting. Soon after BD one of the things my H said to me was that the lying was the worst thing that had ever 'happened to him' and it was such a relief to tell me (BD.)
If I'd had more wherewithal at the time, I'd have called him out that lying doesn't happen to you - you choose to lie.
Sounds like you are keeping busy with stuff Painter - and probably no bad thing as you say.....good luck with everything x
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
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