Fubar that the WW saying no to the D while living w OM.
Could you move on without the D?
Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs 23Mar16-BD 9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss. 27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM. 14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation. 24May17-Divorced.
Hi all. Thanks for the support. Lady V , yes on LinkedIn are the sense of entitlement , I'm not sure , the convo went like this
Me.: I'll let you go as obviously that wasn't great news WW.: I'm so sorry but he had no where else to go Me: not my business but I did hold out some hope that you would be back in the house one day , maybe not as W but at least in a mother role. WW: I did too , I think I've got a mental illness because I've lost everything and can't seem to stop what I'm doing Did you give up on that now Me: I don't think you would expect me to take you back after this. Can I ask when you knew that you would never be back ? WW: 2 mins ago and burst out crying
Lady V , I went on to say that I have thought she would be back but obviously she would have to get a new job and remove her friend from her life. She answered that she knew she had to get a new job and her friend would not be about much longer
Vanillia , I have called the sitch with WW fairly accurately re OM since WW left and I must admit that I still think it's not an R in the classic sense , I know this make no difference but my gut is telling me she's telling 90% of the truth
Sotto , your words echoed my IC who I called last night
I am upset but not overly so , I knew WW was spending time with OM and while I suppose I did hold out some hope for reconciliation , I certainly wasn't expecting it
When WW was talking yesterday ('for almost two hours ) a lot was said and maybe I'm just gullible but I did believe the majority of it I am able to distance myself from it and I found that very helpful yesterday because it got to the point in the convo where WW was asking for advice. When I offered my opinion on drunks in general she agreed and from the convo she appears very depressed
Huddy. , thanks for the support , I'm reasonably strong enough to cope now but any advice / encouragement-certainly helps
I know we have no choice in this and we must let them walk their own path
Thank you Vanillia. I agree As I posted above it was a long convo and in it I told WW that she should try a full R with OM I said she was gone16 months and we now lived seperate lives. WW got very upset and said she didn't want an R with him and it wasn't black and white. They were good friends and nothing more She wouldn't trust him with lots of info and knew she could see herself with someone like him
Lady V , an EA is a certain and I tend to believe that WW is telling the truth re a lot of what she is telling me but it doesn't change that I have to continue along my own path. WW was and is in a fog and after almost two years she is still heading down the slippery slope As you have pointed out I needed to drop the rope fully and with OM moving in I now have a clear opportunity
I still t think that WW wants to return to her children but maybe it's wishful thinking
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