"In my experience, a remorseful wayward spouse will do anything to help their partner trust him/her again. They won't get agitated. They don't hide their phone at all. They are an open book about everything.

Keep your eyes and ears open."

I am definitely keeping my eyes and ears open.
She was an open book for a couple years after we reconciled.
But I couldn't seem to let anything go again after she started working in the EMT field. I read so many horrible stories about paramedics and fire fighters and infidelity that I consumed myself not trusting her again for a while.
Like I said my intuition says I think so, but a lot of other things say no to me.
I guess only time will tell and I will continue working on me in the mean time

M 37 W 30
S 7
Together 10 years
Married 9 years
BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day)
I moved to apartment 1/11/13
W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13
Peicing: 6/3/13
Reconciled: 7/2013
BD2: 4/20/16
still working on it