hello, poschan. I just wanted to welcome you to the group. I am sorry that you had to find us, but I'm glad you did. There are a lot of incredible people here, all in similar situations to yours, and you will find help and support here.
Hang in there and know that this is a marathon, not a sprint. Frame things in months or seasons, not days or weeks. I wish I had known that a few months ago...
It really sounds like you are on the right track with your GAL efforts. You're working out, dressing better, and doing things for yourself. Be sure that you seek out other people who can be there for you. Reconnect with old friends, join new groups, hire therapists or doctors, and do whatever it takes to build yourself a support network. It's critical that you have people who care about your well-being because there will be days when you will really need them.
Use this site as a journal, a sounding board, for reaching out, for support, or in any other way that you find helps you. Weave yourself into the fabric of the group and you will find support here, too.
H: 44, Me: 45 Married: 20 y Together: 25 y no kids Walk away: 12/15 Asked for temp separation 12/25/15 PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had) H filed for D 5/16
