I think that you should stay focused on you. There are not really ideas for the relationship dynamic until she wants to do so. You mention she is still leaving. DR would teach that the LRT and 180 are the best bets. And these are based on focusing on yourself.
You are doing some great things, but it still sounds like you are looking for a magic bullet. MWD says that there is not one. I hope I am not coming off as rough, as I could only wish I was at least in the place where you are as it sounds like you are doing great and there is potential for your MR, but I would say the idea you need are simply things that make you happy regardless of your W. If you don't do this, she will not trust your changes, and your changes won't be permanent.
All of this IMHO.
Keep up the great efforts and I love hearing your PMA in each of your posts.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
