Started to think my wife is having an affair?

[Coconut]

cbtdad, I'm sorry to hear what you are going through. The "not knowing" part is the hardest for me too. I'm new to this site and dealing with M issues, so I don't feel that I can provide advise that would be productive, but I've found that there are a lot of knowledgeable people on her who will stop in and provide some good information / guidance soon. Hang in there, and know you have a lot of people here that will support you.