Collin: I continue to pray for you (in fact I just did right now). I empathize with how you feel. When we are mired in hurt it's very hard to look at it from our spouses point of view. We want to cry out and say but "I'm hurting too" or "look what you did to me", etc. There is no easy way for doing this. I have tried to pray before I speak to my W and during. I pray to honor this convo and to help me truly listen. I have noticed that the times I do not pray before, during or after. The conversations don't go so well.

Please rest on God - ask Him to change you. I've recently started to ask God to make me into the kind of Man/Husband my wife needs (not the one she wants).

Perhaps if we trust that God will provide us with a greater future than we could imagine - if we trust and obey Him.

It's not easy, but I have faith in you.


M:50
W:53
MR:20
D:21
S:17
S:11
BD-Sept 2015
Suspected PA Sept 2015-Confronted W & OM Dec 2015
Actually EA
In house Sep:Jan/16-May 2016
W moved out:May 22 2016
OM-Intro Oct/17-On scene July/Aug 2017