Hang in there OTP you ate being a great dad so keep it up. How is GAL going?
GAL isn't going well at all. I am hoping it will get better once I have my house back and projects to work on. But not sure how I'll ever meet women if I never leave the house!
I was thinking this morning again, was I happy with the M? I came up with NO. She was a good cook, the very rare occasion she tried, but it was pizza 6 meals a week minimum, or some other overly simple foods. We were drowning in carbs, we were all overweight, especially her at 5'-3" and 230 lbs. She had an overall very unhealthy lifestyle, and almost no physical activity, on top of an extensive list of ailments. It was getting to the point that she could no longer physically do things we used to do together. I had my projects for physical activity was my only savior. She didn't cook, didn't clean, didn't keep up on laundry, didn't have any interest in improving our life. When with the kids she would sit and play on her phone while the kids did their own thing, she rarely interacted with them, and sounds like that is still the case. I was definitely resenting her for all of this, I know I was voicing it too.
I always wondered if we would get a D. But I imagined that if we did, we were such good friends that maybe we'd stay friends, maybe we'd continue doing thing together with the kids even, but I just wouldn't have to deal with her every day. Amicable, fair, etc.
Why did I "try" to get her back in the first place? I don't know. I think a big part of the reason I didn't leave her, was I was worried about hurting her, and how she would survive without me. Not exactly a healthy reason! Maybe I was hoping that after a break she would become something better? Someday? I wonder if it is because I panicked about her filing the OFP, I just wanted it gone. If we got back together it would go away. The rumors going around would be proved wrong. It was such a childish thing for her to do. I am sure she'll give the typical line of "I may not have thought it through." We could have ended amicably, as friends, but instead she filed an OFP, ruining the ability to ever be friends again, to co-parent successfully, etc. And for what? Because of her own insecurities? She destroyed lives, refused to share assets during this all, didn't communicate, etc. And was surprised when I sent her D papers? Then tells S11 I am blaming her.... No kidding I am blaming her! She had no grounds for the OFP, except her lies, and even with the lies it doesn't seem like enough to get one, except that the local county gives them out as a "benefit of the doubt" approach.
