You won't get it. They are on the verge of insane. Think about it. A person you knew so long then just flipped to someone else. Then they show signs of the old person. Multiple personality disorder?

I think the wife is asking you to do things for two reasons. She is trying to put on a show for the kids. If you decline she looks like the good guy by asking

The other I think is that she is stringing you along. She still wants you to want her even though she may not want a relationship.

Don't know if she is doing that on purpose but I do believe she still wants your attention.

If you can remember this over the next few weeks and just do the things if you want but know the reasons are really not worth obsessing you will do a lot better

Take care

M 37
W 34

T 12
M 8
D 7
S 4

Need break 4/12/15
W no ring 7/7/15

Separate room 4/12/15
Separate living suggested 8/15
W moved out 11/1/15