Yes doodler, i think it is definitely going to help, bring the focus onto me and what i need to fix.

when my W and i first started going out, we were friends with benefits. She was friendly with another guy and told me that either i make her my GF or she's gonna go out with him - she wanted stability. I said yes, but i never stopped wondering and wandering. As early as last year December, i was still wandering.

If i think of the girls that i was attracted to over these 10 years, none of them reciprocated because they had boyfriends, and were not wandering. But if one of them were wandering then i have no doubt that my WW would have been on this forum right now.

I definitely need to fix myself, I can't believe that i've been lost for so long! My WW is not my priority.

A question for Sandi, if she's reading - Does my wandering change the dynamic? I don't think so...


Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.