I love my mum but she has been very difficult in the past few years, and especially leading up to and after the D.
I was really stressed up over her condition and this added to my M problems. After the umpteenth spewing from her after the D, I finally realised enough is enough. I am not responsible for her happiness. She was not happy when I wanted to R with xh but after the D went through, she told me I deserved to be D????
Long story short, I decided she was as toxic as xh and have minimised contact with her as well. But then again, she did call me a slut for wanting to R with the ex.
I really feel that we have a lot to deal with in our sitchs. I think it is okay for us to take care of our needs first. If you feel that you cannot handle the convos with your mum, then maybe you can keep them short. Or avoid them as much as you can. Or you could offer her the benefit of doubt like what claire suggested.
But I say you should take care of your needs first. If you're in a better mood, you will probably be able to interact with her better too.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
