The anger from my WAW is something I had never seen in 20 years and the things she accuses me of are so penetrating that I sometimes wonder if I am not the devil himself, if that is what I really did for 20 years to make her feel like she says she does now.
SadHub, you are as far from that as you could possibly be. Seriously. Don't let your wife's projection of her own anger and guilt issues onto you make you doubt yourself.
No one is a perfect partner, but there is absolutely no way that you could have raised two such wonderful children if you weren't a genuinely good person. It speaks volumes that your D17 feels so uncomfortable around her mother now and looks to you for refuge. You are obviously a source of comfort, support, and stability. You earned her trust for a reason.
Don't give up on yourself. Ever.
H: 44, Me: 45 Married: 20 y Together: 25 y no kids Walk away: 12/15 Asked for temp separation 12/25/15 PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had) H filed for D 5/16
