LiM et all, Keep thinking of other key factors: 1. If my H doesn't feel safe, due to his triggers/ childhood stuff, history of depression, no connection is possible- obviously we all need to feel safe, but his need is heightened. another reason I keep thinking of the 'frienship' factor as a benefit.
2. He said when he left, in a note and later in an email - you can't fix this and I don't want to process this. So any attempts to even begin to talk about rebuilding the M at this point would likely backfire and put him back on the defensive. ok good night for real.
