WAW still angry, moved out, D on the way?

[rich4j]

Sadhub

I have been on this board for months now even after my situation got hopeless and am going thru separation/divorce nightmares

Your situation is all too common here.

There is no easy answer or remedy to make you feel better right away. I went thru much of the same sleeplessness as you are , lost 10 pounds that I didn't need to lose and felt like I was in a fog for months.

Folks on this board are great and while I didn't think there was any EA or PA, there is usually something pushing him or her to move on. I am slowly finding out there was an EA and now its probably a PA but I don't care anymore.

YOU WILL be fine...it just will take some time which is not what you want to hear.

Your WAW is going to blame you for everything including the weather, Trump :-)...maybe even global warming. I get blamed weekly for our situation ...it helps them feel what they are doing is OK and justified. If they have friends that have gone thru this they are supporting and cheering her or him. Its a snowball effect.

Keep focusing on your family minus the WAW. Try to be the best you can be for them....it is hard. I have had to bite my tongue for months on confronting her about the possible affair but that won't help me get what I need in the divorce/separation so I continue on even though we don't want to be near each other in any respect.

You will eventually come to grip with the fact that your WAW is no longer the woman you loved and it will hurt. That hurt may turn to anger and resentment but all you can do is try to heal yourself and be there for your family right now.

You will get thru this.....it will be hard for the first few months but keep posting and keeping your chin up.