I think most of the conversations you had were good. No need to talk about OM and say things that aren't true. I'm glad to see you enforced your boundary of which topics to discuss and how you will (will not) be treated by her. Keep it up!
Have you been in touch with your sons' teachers? Any plan to provide IC for your boys? Sounds like S6 could use someone to talk with.
Agree and have the same questions.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
