New here need support

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It's so tough. I also did all the wrong things with pursuing and begging and my W said it made her even more determined to go through with the D. I finally found this forum a couple of weeks ago and all the advice about improving yourself and GAL is exactly right. I work a lot from home as well and I was a bum around my wife, I'd wear jeans and t-shirts, wouldn't shave, would just throw water on my hair instead of combing it nice. Since she left I went out and bought a bunch of new clothes, make sure to shave daily etc. Also started going back to church and signed up for a softball and hockey league. My wife came over today to get our daughter and even mentioned how I have so much going on in May.

Who knows, it may not help save the marriage, both our W's minds could be completely made up, but at the very least you can say you improved yourself.

Goodluck!