My first post - please be nice.

[collin]

the question i have about this whole db process is...one of the major points on contention in our marriage was my selfishness. well if i start living this 'me' centered life, won't that further emphasize her point of view? i just feel like it would be doing far more harm than good. i mean, i get needing to work on myself. i've been trying to. i've been trying to get into running and get into better shape. there's lots i need to do to work on myself. but isn't it completely missing the point if i move on attempt to forge a life without my wife?

i get i have a lot to learn about this. i never in my wildest dreams thought i would be going through this. but i guess that's ultimately why i'm here. i took the marriage for granted.