Pursuit and distance is a game. If you let go of playing the game then you detatch.

Going dark likely will not stop or reverse the dynamic. It's just another version of the game.

It only takes you to stop playing if you drop the rope.

Dropping the rope is about letting the dynamic go, it isn't about letting the other go. If you let go of the outcome R or no R are both outcomes you can live with.

This isn't NC, I have done NC for 12 months absolutely. Utley NC, 3 weeks is still in reactive space.

I think the most effective strategy is that of the lighthouse, being strong in keeping the light homenough. Being yourself authentic and friendly.

Consider the picnic by the lighthouse strategy.

V

Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW