I think you are telling me to use the fact that I am aware of the pattern to my advantage by being ready for it rather than trying to stop something that I can't stop. That makes very good sense to me.
thanks Craig
Me: 38 y/o W: 38 y/o Together: 10 yrs Married: 7 yrs S1, D3, S15(hers previous, I adopted May'15) WBD: Sep '15 W's EA confirmed Oct'15 W Filed Dec '15 Personal awakening Mar'16